Cis white guy here admitting im not right about everything.
As someone who was raised by a feminist mother and as I have become more educated in recent years have become totally accepting of the tenets of feminism and the dangers of rape culture, it originally didn’t sit well with me when i saw you discussing how men couldn’t be feminists only feminist-allies.
I think in my head it made me feel like it invalidated my beliefs.
I realise now that, that this is bullshit. It’s just my ego. Being an ally doesn’t make my beliefs any less strong. It just means its not all about me. It just means that as someone who hasn’t and never will have the experiences of those with less privilege than myself, that I have to shut up, listen and most importantly learn. Then with this information do all I can to help.
So thank you very much for your blog and the information you help share.
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Yes to all of this!
Being a feminist ally doesn’t mean you can’t be a fierce believer in feminism or helpful to the movement. It is really a way of establishing that you believe in feminist ideals while acknowledging your privilege over us. Men who call themselves “feminist ally” are 100000 times for trustworthy to me than men who still demand to be called “feminist” after being told that some women feel uncomfortable with men adopting the title. So glad to hear that you understand. Take care!